I knew I was not going to be good enough, at least I convinced myself so. How am I suppose to stand up and say something in a room filled so many intelligent and successful people? What have I achieved to warrant having something worthwhile to say.
So you are about to take up on a new project and this following feeling flows your mind:
- I am not capable
- I am not qualified for this
- if they find out about the real me, they will not like me
- I will fail and embarrass myself
- everyone is better than I am, why bother
ome of these statements are true but most often than not; we exaggerate over weakness when we have no even given it our best shot yet. It is normal to feel all gritty about trying something new but never all a 'feeling' keep you stranded and prevent you from living the life that is possible.
If you try and you prove yourself to be true on any of the listed items above, they give yourself time to go work on you.
“Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” 2 Timothy 2:15
To be approved, to be effective, to be able to handle the things you want to do- study! In this case, study mean, train yourself. Read up. Equip yourself.
Do not give up or be afraid to try.
Also if you know you are doing an amazing job, if people have complimented your work to be great but still feel no good enough, I can tell for sure that you are not alone. Kate Winston once commented that there are say when she feels like a fraud and not good enough for a job. We know that isn't true right?
I have passed on the job that I totally love and would have been a great opportunity but fear that I will mess it up kept me away. It is often said you regret the opportunities you didn't take, I can tell you that is so true.
So how do you overcome it?
I accept you are not alone.
It is a normal feeling and a popular one at that. I hear the popular speaker say they still get nervous as they approach the stage. Or writer feeling very nervous while sending out there work.
It is not a lone disease.
Quit comparing yourself to others
I like to quote “Stop comparing someone's plantation stage to your nursery stage. You have no idea, how long they have been working on themselves to get to where they are. You have no idea what the journey has been for them so, be patient with yourself and take the time to train and get the skill sets you need from time to time.
Create space to make mistake.
You will make mistake, that is part of life. Don't convince yourself that making mistake means you have failed. No, you are learning. And as you learn ways not to do a thing you create more avenues as to how you can go about it.
This is so crucial. The Bible verse says as a man thinks so he is and you words springs out for your thought. So first, think positive thoughts and tell yourself positive things. Motivate yourself with yourself, tell yourself the reason why you should keep trying and going on.
Network with like minds.
This is one advantage of having friends doing almost about the same thing as you do, like facebook groups or a meetup group, where you can associate with people with the same mindset as you.
This enables you to share your struggles and also, more importantly, help people going through what you have been through. This boosts your mood and energy, and help reassure you too.
Take action. Rather than sitting down and worrying about it; do something about it. If the project is huge, break it down to bits and take it one at a time.
If feeling overwhelmed, get the help you need.
You don't have to do everything yourself. You do not need to be an expert in all things.
And as you achieve what you set out to do; celebrate yourself. have a treat.